After you are done evaluating your goals you reached during the last decade, decide if they included things outside your immediate family. Nurturing your family is non-negotiable, but so is building and nurturing our community. We were the best at it; not doing so, this world would not be populated. Africa would not be as diverse as it is nor have layer upon layer of discovered and undiscovered ancient civilizations.
Do not emulate our enemy who seeks to kill, steal, and destroy us.